Here’s the best tip and trick to being an effective communicator:
There are no tips and tricks except to identify the fundamental changes each of us needs to make to improve the experiences and outcomes we have in communicating with others.
It’s not really that hard. It just takes patience and maturity to look at what we are doing that doesn’t work. That’s more than half the battle.
Small changes can make a very big difference. You don’t have to risk losing your job. You just need to be honest with yourself and make simple, step-by-step changes.
Once we’ve identified what we’re doing to exacerbate the problem, the corrections follow spontaneously if we’re serious about making effective improvements to how we communicate.
However, we can only do our part. We have no control over how another person reacts. Their history and who they are determines that.
BUT… we can usually improve the situation significantly if we make the changes that WE need to make.
We simply need to be personally committed to changing how we do things along with someone who has a good eye, lots of experience and compassion to help us see where we need to improve.
Tips and tricks are for kids, not for mature adults.
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David Kagen
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